The Wedding Dilemma

Growing up I was never one of those little girls that had their dream wedding planned out, never went and did fake weddings with teddybears or played weddings with my friends. In fact until I found my wonderful fiance I hadn't really given weddings a second thought for more than a second.

But then 9 months ago the man every girl wants got down on one knee and proposed to me and suddenly we were thrust into a spiral of dresses, venues, cakes and a never ending bill of rising costs. I don't know how many of you are married or engaged to be married, but it is bloody expensive!

A Wedding I have come to realise is one of the most expensive days of your entire life, only really following the cost of buying a house, the kind of money dropped on one days is extraordinary!

Is it so wrong to want simplicity?

Thankfully our parents our helping us pay for the wedding but it still is overwhelming how much it all costs. Over the last few weeks we have been planning and budgeting how much things are going to cost for our wedding and to be honest, it is ALOT of money. Like I'm talking over a year of our mortgage paid kind of expensive! AND thats before the honeymoon and hens/bucks nights!

Suddenly I have become very overwhelmed with the idea of the big white wedding! In fact i would be more than happy in a tea length white dress at the wedding registry office with my husband to be and our very close friends and family, having beautiful photos and a lovely honeymoon!

But is that too selfish of me? I mean arn't receptions and big white weddings more for the family and guests than the actual bride and groom?

Marriage is about love and being with that person for the rest of your life, is the day really a big deal? Should I cut my losses and spend the money on the big day? Or should I be content with my little wedding ideal and put the money towards something that invests in our future?